Monday, August 16, 2010

I am only human...

   
So, lately Chas has been having some pretty rough days and been REALLY pushing my buttons. I know think he knows better and that he is just trying to get attention...negative or positive.

I get really frustrated {cause I am only human} and usually end up sending him to his room for a time out.
I have to watch 7 other kids besides him and don't have time to deal with it everyday. I was out of options and things to do to make it better. UNTIL, I got an e-mail from my MIL. She made some good points, that since Makenize is such a mommy's girl, I always usually have her attached to my hip. He might feel as if he isn't getting any one on one attention and that all my attention is geared toward Kenzie. 

He had a really rough time when Abby was born, since he didn't get 100% of the attention anymore. 

I will have to admit that I am not very good at giving Chase {and Abby} one on one time. Makenzie always wants me to hold her and during the day, I have to share my attention with 7 other kids.

My MIL mentioned making time for Chase, with just him and I, and not Makenzie. I have tried doing that and it is going well. He loves when we get to read together and practice his number and letters. 

Days are SO much longer when I have to argue and 'fight' with him, so I will take any advice from all you. I know Boys will be Boys, but if you have anything that has worked for you or suggestions to try, I am all for it. 

I just want him to get through the day without a 'million' time outs!

I mean....how could you be mad at a {silly} face like this...

7 comments:

Linds said...

I don't have any pointers because mine is 16 months, but will be interested to see the response... I deal with the same thing a lot of the time, and feel like it will only get worse when baby #2 arrives in November.

Marissa said...

I am going through something similar with my almost-four year old, he is ALWAYS trying to gain my attention when it is focused on our 15 month old. I always make it a game for him to help me with little brother, then make a BIG deal out of his help...makes him feel good, even though I am busy changing a diaper with little brother! Seems to be working for now, but glad to know another mom is struggling with it too :) HANG IN THERE!

chris said...

Keep it going Kelly. The fact that you can ask for help and take what you need is huge. All will work out with time and patience.. Chasers such a sweet hearted boy. He will come around. Just keep on loving them all and you can.t go wrong..

Your MIL :)

Meant to be a mom said...

Awe poor little guy. I mean its got to be hard to divide the time. And in his defense I'm sure its not always that easy being the oldest and having to adjust so much to two younger siblings. But it sounds to me like your doing a good job of making sure he feels extra special. I hope he starts to act a little better soon.

Lexie Loo & Dylan Too said...

He is a cutie!
For me, it was a breeze until Dylan turned 3. The 3's and 4's were hard, but it got better when he turned 5. He's so much more mature and it's easier to reason with him. Hang in there...it's just a phase, and will get better!!!

Landen and family said...

Landen never really showed any jealousy until Maddie was on the move. Once she started crawling is when we really noticed Landen acting out. We try to do things with just him, even if it's me just taking him down the street for ice cream or his dad taking him to the driving range to hit some balls. 90 percent of the time he gives us no trouble, but we do have days where it seems like he gets in trouble all day long. I try to think back and figure out what might have triggered it. Since he doesn't nap as long as Maddie now, I try to spend the time between when he wakes up and she does with him, doing something he likes. I heard him telling his friend how we play the wii together and his friend was like wow, your mom plays the wii with you? My mom is too busy! It made me feel so good and it's really only a short time that we play but obviously that's special to him. Maybe even giving him some more grown up "jobs" to do will make him feel important and will keep him out of trouble. Good luck! You will get through this, you're a great Mama!

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