I just can't believe it!
To think that 7 of my friends that I graduate High School with, have gotten a divorce.
WOW!
My belief is that when you say your vows and sign that marriage contract, the two of you are in it for life. Through thick and thin, good and bad....all the way to 'till death do us part.'
I read that the divorce rate in our country is 51% {WHAT?}
Why are people getting married if they aren't sure it will last and they aren't willing to 'take on another job'. Marriage is like a job, you have to work at it daily!
(I do realize that there can be those once an awhile occasions when serious things happen)
When you marry someone, most people, do it because they are in love and want to spend the rest of their life with their partner. I don't believe that all that just goes away. It DOES take work and commitment, but the love was there to begin with, so there is no doubt in my mind, it can be there again, if you just work at it.
Marriage does not come easy. There ARE ups and downs, there are hard times, but if there is trust and love, it will work.
I understand that one person in the marriage can decide that the marriage is over, leaving the other person with little fighting power. There are times that I do agree with divorce. I believe {trust} is the number one thing in a relationship/marriage. If there is no trust, you shouldn't be getting married. If trust is lost in a marriage, due to being unfaithful, I believe that your marriage contract and vows have been broken.
Divorce is sad itself, but when it hits home and it starts happening to your friends, it is painful to watch your friends go through.
There are ways around divorce, counseling is one of them. I'd have to say that if my marriage ever got to that point (and I pray it never does) I would do ANYTHING and EVERYTHING in my power to fight for it. Not only for me, but my kids also.
I have been talking to a lot of friends, that are going through this and I really wish I could help, but I can't. It isn't my 'boat' to jump in, to try and keep it a float. If they got married for the wrong reasons, or weren't 100% sure they wanted to be with their partner FOREVER, they shouldn't have gotten married.
Marriage isn't just something you do. (some people just think after a long relationship, you get married.) NOT TRUE! You get married out of love and trust for someone that you want to be with 'till death till you part.'
With all that being said.
I am sorry to all my friends that have to ever go through divorce!
{Brian...I love you to the moon and back!}
(this is all my opinion and my statistics are found on the web)