Tuesday, May 10, 2011

3 Going on 13



Please don't tell me I'm the only one....
{that can't be possible}
Whose daughter is 3....going on 13??
Mine is!
(how can she be so cute and at times be so bratty and sassy?!)

{I really hope one of you have some advice for me}
 I am out of ideas and things are getting worse!
Abby has an attitude of a 13 year old and (I know this is pay back from my childhood) all my buttons are being pushed!

If Abby doesn't get her way, you will hear about it for the next 10 minutes (at minimum)
If she is told 'no' or you tell her to do something she doesn't want to do, she will throw you a curve ball of a temper-tantrum to try and get her way. 
I do everything in my power, to stick to my guns, and hold true to what I have told her to do, or what I have said I am going to do.
(but there is those times, more often than not, that I just can't take it anymore)
 
What do I do?!

she will throw an all out fit, kicking and screaming, telling us she doesn't want us in her family (ouch, that hurts from a 3 year old) and do anything in her power, to sound us out.
She will sit on a 'time out,' but will scream at the top of her lungs. She will go to her room, but will slam the door and yell and scream, until someone comes and stops her.
{all out tantrum}

I need a plan that I follow and stick to, so she knows what is going to happen. I need her to know I am serious and there is consequences and that what she is doing isn't okay.
I need to nip this behavior in the bud!

 This is where I need your help. I know some of you have girls her age and even older girls, that have been through this stage (please only be a stage) So here is where I ask you....
HELP PLEASE!
(any advice is appreciated!)

12 comments:

Erica @ All About Aleigha said...

I'll definitely be checking back to see what advice others give because trust me you are not alone. Aleigha is pretty much the same way and I know that I dont make it better when I cave. Looking forward to seeing what others say.

chalklove said...

Enlist Super Nanny? haha - or maybe watching an episode could give you some tips though?! Sounds like you're already doing things like she suggests... good luck. Wish I had the answer!

Kristin said...

maybe you already do this...but layla's time outs do not start until she is sitting and quite. so she can have a fit all she wants, then have her time out.

Our Family of Four said...

It's tough at this age.. I swear three is the new terrible two's.

Landen and family said...

Maddie is the exact same way! I have no advice, nothing we have tried seems to be working. We are getting some results by putting her in time out when she is whining and crying for no real reason, other than to get her way, but it hasn't curbed the behavior all together and it's so frustrating!

AD said...

Maybe try a marble jar. We didn't start ours until our daughter was 4, but only because that is when I read about it...I think it could work at 3 too. Our daughter gets rewarded with marbles every day for things that she does that are positive. (get out of bed when asked, brush her teeth, clean up her toys, etc) and then has to give me marbles when she acts out (yelling, tantrums, arguing, etc) When her marble jar gets full, she gets to pick something out, either a toy or an event, like the movies or the circus. It has helped her with numbers too, because I make her add up how many she gets for all of her activities. This could work for your older son too, to be a 'good' example of how it works maybe. I have little ones at home too, so our marbles and marble jar just sit on a top shelf that is very visable, but out of reach to all! Good luck!

Annie said...

awww...it's a good thing she is so cute! hope that you get some good advice :)

Heather said...

oh no! so you are telling me i have another 2 years of these tanrums?! :)
hope you get some advice! I will defnitely be checking back! :)

Erin said...

This is hard .. Alex throws tantrums every once in awhile but nothing huge I just threaten her with daddy and she shapes up or if I have to I call him and then she knows she is in trouble. She doesnt do those types of things with him around.

Start taking away her favorite things. Send her to her room and let her scream as much as she wants she will stop or fall asleep. And like the lady above said the time out doesnt start until she is sitting nice and not making a sound.

Maybe an earlier bed time or a longer nap time. Maybe she is growing and not getting enough sleep? Maybe she needs to get into her bed before everyone else and just read to herself and have quit time if she wont sleep before a certain time?

Avin throws tantrums worse then Alex and we just let her do it and we have even started putting her in her crib and letting her work it out.

I think that marble jar could work but I know you do something similar so maybe it is time to start taking away bigger things.. I don't think you need to offer bigger things unless you are desperate.

Not sure that is much advice as I am sure you have thought of everything.

Lisa said...

I have found that visual things work well...like the marble jar, or a chart that she gets to put her own stickers on when she earns them for good behavior. Try telling her that it hurts your feelings, and ask her how she would feel if you said or did those things to her. If those don't work, then you could buy her something that she really wants so that you have something to take away when she acts up. You difinitely do need to correct this behavior asap, because the older they get, the harder it is! (I know from experience!! :) Good luck!

Anna said...

I hate to tell ya it only gets worse Isabel is 6 going on 16 and fast! LOL. Some days are better than others but BOY do we have our DAYS sometimes! So I totally hear ya.

Lexie Loo & Dylan Too said...

I stick to firm timeouts when Lexie pulls her crap. Unfortunately, I think girls are just sassier than boys, and the drama definitely starts earlier! There is a huge difference between Dylan and Lexie!

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