Wednesday, March 20, 2013

When you don't know!

Ever have your child get asked to a birthday party or get requested for a playdate..

...when you haven't met the child's parents?!
{or is that only me?!}

Part of me wants to be the good mom and always let them go.
The other part of me don't even know this child or their parents.

Since I do daycare, I don't get to volunteer in the kids school classes (hopefully this will change someday) and that means I don't get to meet their friends. I hear plenty about them and how they are best buddies, but I only go by what I am told. They ask for play-dates with a lot of them and also get invited to tons of birthday parties.

How do I know their behavior is acceptable and that they are a good influence on my child? 
{you know the friends that you want your kids to have?!}

I do my best in raising my children to have presentable and respectable behavior when they are not in our presence (and even when they are!) I want my kids to be the ones that parents talk about, saying how well behaved they are and how good of a friend they are. {who wouldn't want that?}

When I am asked to drop my kids off at a birthday party and pick them up later...that is hard for me- I don't know the family who is watching my child.

What would/do you do?!


Lexie Loo, Lily, Liam & Dylan Too said...

I only do that if I know the parents! If it is drop-off party and you can't stay, I would decline the invitation until you can get to know the parents!

Anonymous said...

Great questions Kelly! I tried to meet the family first if possible. I also asked all my friends what they knew about the family. I always found a way for my husband or I to do the driving until I was more confident with the family. If there is any way possible to go along with your child to the party by offering to help or saying your child gets a little nervous, etc. that would give you a better idea. Also you could invite the child over for a playdate before the party, which would give you some contact with the family also.
Good luck!

Paige said...

I only do parties that parents are allowed to attend as well.

Susan said...

Follow your heart and do what you think is best for your kids. I like the suggestions above. I appreciate your caution. It is needed in this point in time.

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