Wednesday, July 24, 2013

'Yes Please'


Expecting manners from your children isn't expecting much. We need to realize that children learn much more from our actions than our words. We don't want to go about it with anger and getting mad when manners aren't used, rather love and patience. Stay away form the sarcasm and hold firm. If my child ask for milk, 'can I have some milk,' my immediate response is 'please try again.' Then my kids look at me and and usually reply with, 'may I please have some milk mom?'

It is all about the example we set and what we teach them. You are shaping your child for their future, which in the long run will be much 'brighter' with manners. Parents have many responsibilities, two main ones are teaching your child right from wrong and how to act. Your kids need to know what you expect from them. They need to know what is expected, whether at home, out in public or at a friends house. Make a list of the manners you expect from them..
 

 Once they know what is expected, they'll remember when they are reminded by a word or a short phrase you use, if they forget to use their manners.
 
'Excuse me?'
'Please try again'
'Manners?'
'You forgot a word'
'Words'

All simple sayings/words to nicely remind them to use their manners. I rarely have to remind me oldest three to use their manners. I have used manners all my life and my kids are good 'copy cats.' For the few times I remind them, they are usually caught up in the moment of what's going on.
 
There is nothing better than when my kids have a friend over and they use, 'please,' 'thank you' and 'excuse me.' It puts a smile on my face to know their parents are raising them to be polite and well mannered. The same goes for when my children are at a friends house and during pick up I talk with the other parent and they tell me how nice and polite my children were. {pats self on the back}

Often times my hubby has to remind me not to treat him like one of the kids and after he says something, repeating what he said, inserting a 'please' or 'thank you' and emphasize the manner he forgot. {hehe...sorry hunny}

How do you get your kids to use their manners?


Here are three great books I love to help with manners...
 
A parent who sets this limit, avoids anger or sarcasm, and holds firm by staying home will see a very upset child in the short-term and a much happier, more responsible one in the long-term. - See more at: http://www.loveandlogic.com/t-manners_matter.aspx#sthash.CesXSB9d.dpuf
A parent who sets this limit, avoids anger or sarcasm, and holds firm by staying home will see a very upset child in the short-term and a much happier, more responsible one in the long-term. - See more at: http://www.loveandlogic.com/t-manners_matter.aspx#sthash.CesXSB9d.dpuf
A parent who sets this limit, avoids anger or sarcasm, and holds firm by staying home will see a very upset child in the short-term and a much happier, more responsible one in the long-term. - See more at: http://www.loveandlogic.com/t-manners_matter.aspx#sthash.CesXSB9d.dpuf
A parent who sets this limit, avoids anger or sarcasm, and holds firm by staying home will see a very upset child in the short-term and a much happier, more responsible one in the long-term. - See more at: http://www.loveandlogic.com/t-manners_matter.aspx#sthash.CesXSB9d.dpuf
A parent who sets this limit, avoids anger or sarcasm, and holds firm by staying home will see a very upset child in the short-term and a much happier, more responsible one in the long-term. - See more at: http://www.loveandlogic.com/t-manners_matter.aspx#sthash.CesXSB9d.dpuf
A parent who sets this limit, avoids anger or sarcasm, and holds firm by staying home will see a very upset child in the short-term and a much happier, more responsible one in the long-term. - See more at: http://www.loveandlogic.com/t-manners_matter.aspx#sthash.CesXSB9d.dpuf
A parent who sets this limit, avoids anger or sarcasm, and holds firm by staying home will see a very upset child in the short-term and a much happier, more responsible one in the long-term. - See more at: http://www.loveandlogic.com/t-manners_matter.aspx#sthash.CesXSB9d.dpuf
Children learn much more from our actions than from our words - See more at: http://www.loveandlogic.com/t-manners_matter.aspx#sthash.CesXSB9d.dpuf

2 comments:

Erin said...

manners are soooo important... and its crazy how sometimes trying to get a child to say sorry after they did something wrong can be such a big task...

love when kids use please and thank you and excuse me :)

skyhawk824 said...

No you didn't...I'll give you manners!

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