Monday, September 30, 2013

Not perfect...just did their best!



I can remember a lot of my childhood and all of my experiences lead me to the girl/wife/daughter/aunt and mom I am today. I grew up in a very loving home. We weren't always very family oriented, but have grown to become more, now that we are all older with families.

 I am not going to lie and say my childhood was the best experience. I wasn't the easiest teenager and in return, my parents dealt with it by 'tightening' down on rules and spanking my butt with a wooden spoon. {I dreaded getting a punishment, but that usually didn't stop me from making poor choices} I learned from my 'mistakes' and  my consequences. I swore I would never parent the way my parents did, but as a parent of 4 now, I can honestly see where they were coming from. That does not mean I will ever take a wooden spoon to my child's bare behind. I do believe that they did what they thought was best and most effective at that time. I however never felt a time that I wasn't loved {no matter how many times I sent my mom paper airplane letter down the stairs, stating that they didn't love me} I was told many times a day and showed in many ways. I just choose to describe it as tough love. 

I didn't have the relationship with my parents where I shared anything and everything with them. I hid lots of things from them and found out about 'things' on my own. We never had the talk about 'the birds and the bees,' puberty, finances/saving, just to name a few. This is something I want to make sure my kids feel comfortable with me and my hubs about. I want them to be able to come to me with anything and everything. I want to have that open relationship, one where there is a fine line between parenting and being friends.  I want my kids to know that I will love them no matter what they do and that we all are constantly learning together, so people make mistakes.

Growing up my family didn't have a money tree in our backyard, nor did we have 'extra cash' floating around waiting to be spent. When I was 16, I got my first job and I have been working ever since. The day I got that job, I was on my own for buying the things I wanted and needed. I think this is a very valuable lesson that I learned and helped me for when I ventured out on my own. Do I think that if you have the money to spoil your kids rotten...you should? By all means, go for it. They are only live once!

I want to be able to give my children all the love, support and encouragement they deserve! Every family and situation is different and we all go about it our own different and unique ways. As long as there is abundant love and you make sure your kids know that you are proud of them...you are doing a great job!



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1 comment:

apartment-wife.com said...

" I want my kids to know that I will love them no matter what they do and that we all are constantly learning together, so people make mistakes."- words to live by :) what a sweet and inspiring post. your children are extremely lucky to have you as a mom :)

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